AFFIRM Program | Rachel Hulstein-Lowe

The AFFIRM Program

A 6-Step Roadmap for Parents Raising

Gender-Diverse Kids

Navigate the emotional and social challenges of parenting transgender and nonbinary youth and young adults. With compassion and expert guidance, this program empowers you to foster a thriving, affirming environment for your child and family.

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Feeling Overwhelmed with Your Kid's Gender Identity Journey?

Parenting a gender-diverse child of any age brings unique joys and challenges.

You might be grappling with questions about:

Your child's safety and well-being.
Understanding gender identity and expression.
Navigating gender-affirming care and medical decisions.
Communicating effectively with your child, family, and community.
Finding reliable resources and a supportive community.
The fear of making mistakes or not knowing enough.

You're not alone. The AFFIRM Program is designed to guide you through these complexities

My 6-Step A.F.F.I.R.M. Program™ is designed to empower you to build a trusting and loving relationship with your kid by providing expert socio-emotional guidance, tried-and-true parenting strategies, and judgment-free feedback. My method offers a safe environment for examining mindsets, enhancing child development and gender-diversity knowledge, as well as building skills through practice and reflection.

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A Comprehensive Approach to

Gender Identity Support

One-on-One

Coaching Sessions

Customized Tasks

& Resources

Exclusive Online Community

Ongoing

Support

Receive tailored guidance in private sessions with Rachel, addressing your unique questions and concerns.

Get actionable steps and curated resources designed to support you and your family's specific needs.

As the program grows, you’ll have the chance to connect with other parents of gender-diverse kids in a safe, judment-free space for shared learning and mutual support.

Beyond sessions, you'll have access to tools and strategies to keep you grounded and confident.

Bonus Exclusives

Planner and Guide

Receive a comprehensive planner and guide designed to help you track progress and integrate insights.

Client Transformation Journeys

Access three exclusive first-hand accounts of former clients’ transformation journeys, including their initial challenges, turning points, steps to change, and where they are now. *Please note, no names, locations, or other identifying information will be shared to ensure privacy.

Expert Interview Library Access

Gain exclusive access to my growing library of 1:1 interviews with leading experts in child development and gender identity, offering diverse perspectives and deeper understanding.

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The A.F.F.I.R.M. Method:

Building Trust and Understanding.

My proven approach empowers you to build a stronger, more trusting relationship with your kid.

AWAKEN

Share your child’s coming-out story and reflect on your own journey to identify the tools you need for a personalized program.

Participate in a 90-minute, one-on-one intake with Rachel to discuss your family’s story, set program goals, and create a tailored plan.
Explore the impact of your child’s gender journey in a safe space to foster personal growth and understanding.
Connect with a supportive community of parents through secure resources and online forums to combat isolation and share experiences.
Learn to separate your child’s gender journey from your own process, enabling healthy boundaries, deeper understanding, and empathetic communication.

MEDIATE

Deepen your understanding of your kid’s rights at the federal, state, and local levels to become their number one ally.

Stay informed about current and proposed legislation specific to your area to protect your family’s rights and act confidently in their best interest.
Find inspiration and validation through stories of parents who have embraced advocacy roles for their children.
Address and process fears about advocacy to feel empowered and confident in your role.
Access tailored resources—mental health support, social groups, activities, and advocacy networks—to support your parenting journey while ensuring you get the care and rest you need.

RELATE

Examine all areas where you and your child interact—home, school, activities, extended family, and work—and learn how to be a wise ally in each.

Learn why pronouns and names matter, as well as strategies for making changes to your vernacular that you can implement immediately without clumsiness.
Discuss code-switching and reflect on how it shows up in your family to cultivate self-awareness and self-compassion.
Create an inclusive home environment that honors each person’s needs while maintaining order and structure within the everyday chaos.
Deepen your understanding of the mental health challenges of living in a transphobic society through expert insights and research.
Help your kid and yourself to not just live but thrive.

INVESTIGATE

Take a closer look at your preconceived notions, expectations, hopes, and dreams for your child & family.

Complete pre-group questionnaires to identify your unique starting point.
Recognize and challenge common gender-based assumptions to begin breaking down your own.
Create a vision board for your child and family to embrace a heart-centered, inclusive parenting approach.
Explore grief as a natural part of parenting, and learn tools to acknowledge, honor, and manage your feelings as you let go.

FOSTER

Your unconditional love begins with believing your child.

Gain inspiration and reduce isolation by hearing stories from other parents in similar situations.
Learn how affirming your child supports their confidence and trust, and start applying these strategies today.
Practice communication and problem-solving techniques to strengthen rapport and create a safe family dynamic.
Identify challenges, receive targeted support, and access recommendations to overcome obstacles and stay on a path of growth.

FAMILIARIZE

Start with a personalized Gender Diversity 101 course, covering terminology

and trans history as needed.

Understand key terms and the history of gender diversity to appreciate its deep roots.
Reflect on your place on the gender spectrum and how it shapes your parenting to enhance self-awareness.
Broaden your perspective by exploring diverse viewpoints, including spiritual beliefs, cultural norms, and lived experiences, to deepen empathy.
Create an action plan that balances your child’s needs with your own, fostering stronger attunement and connection.

Gain Confidence, Clarity, and Connection

Shift from feeling anxious and uncertain to empowered.

Confidently navigate decisions around gender-affirming care.

Develop a deeper understanding of your kid and their gender journey.

Access a supportive network of parents of gender-diverse kids.

Communicate openly and effectively to strengthen family bonds.

Feel grounded and equipped to advocate for your child.

This program is ideal for parents who are:

Raising a gender-diverse child of any age (transgender, non-binary, gender fluid).
Feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or uncertain about how to best support their child.
Committed to learning, growing, and building a stronger family foundation.
Seeking expert guidance and a supportive community.

Is The AFFIRM Program Right For You?

Hi, I’m Rachel!

I am a gender diversity expert, parent coach, writer, and speaker who helps parents of trans, nonbinary, and gender-expansive youth be their number one allies. I am also the parent of two kids, my eldest being nonbinary. I know what it’s like on both sides of the therapy couch.

With over 20 years of experience as a licensed therapist, I have helped hundreds of parents move from anxiety to empowerment, as well as hundreds of kids find their most authentic, confident selves.

Join me for a 6-month transformational journey. You will receive VIP coaching in a private, one-on-one format. Within each month's focus, the content of your twice-monthly sessions is tailored to you and your family's needs.

With tools for understanding gender and gender diversity, you’ll feel calmer communicating with your child, as well as more grounded in your parenting, so that you and your family can thrive.

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TESTIMONIAL

"The event was excellent and exceeded my expectations. It was very helpful. Rachel was able to provide helpful answers and different perspectives."

- participant from the January 2025 AFFIRM Your Parenting livestream

Ready to Transform Your Parenting Journey?

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Take the first step towards feeling confident, grounded, and fully present for your gender-diverse kid.

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